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|Wed, 04-18-2012 - 9:54pm|
Hello, this is my first time posting and I thought I would try because I'm at a loss...
My bf and I have been together 5 months. It started out great, we had great chemistry, we both felt like we found "the one". I'm 31 and divorced. He has been divorced too. The problem is, he has major trust issues that he did tell me about, but I never understood the full extent until recently. We are living together and I moved a few hours to be with him. I was ready to move to a new town anyway and make a fresh start and he was like no one else I had ever met, he's a little older than me and I trusted that if I moved here, i wouldn't regret it. He was so romantic, affectionate, communicative, treated me like a princess, just seemed perfect. However, since I moved in, we've had a hard time. he spent a lot of time and money fixing my car, he had money stolen from him, I started a new job and new school, I started having health problems. we've just been hit hard with life circumstances.
I felt so guilty for all of it and I think I pushed him away, unknowingly. That is the last thing I wanted to do, but he says I pushed him away and now he needs time and doesn't know if we have a future. Just wants to take it one day at a time. I feel that whatever I did doesn't warrant him telling me he is having a hard time trusting me now. He said he's emotionally shut down. He's been hurt in the past, been cheated on, taken advantage of, but I want him to know I'm not like those other women.