Need HELP!

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Need HELP!
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Sun, 09-30-2007 - 2:54pm

My husband and I have been together for over six years and we have three children. To make a long story REAL short. We have had major problems over the course of the six years. We were seperated once three years ago for about three months. This time was very devestating for me. I was left alone with two babies, and really no explanation on why my husband decided to leave. He came crawling back like I had always expected he would. He claimed he was having emtional problems and depression. Being the IDIOT that I am I took him back and after three great years I feel like he's trying to pull the same crap on me.


First he wrote me an email stating that he has been unhappy and we don't treat or communicate the way a married couple should. Instead of coming home from work and talking with me face to face about it, he ran off to the bar with his buddies from work (which this is totally out of character, he never goes to the bar). I was completely upset for three days thinking I was going to be left alone again, this time with three children and no income. I am a stay at home mother now.


Anyway, I had a wedding to go to that weekend, when I returned he acted as if nothing ever happened. He was cuddly and wispering sweet nothings. This only confused me even more. His behavior has been so different! It switches back and forth. He's quiet at times, and refuses to communicate with me. He confided in his sister and told her it was all about finances. I don't understand why he's going to such great extremes over finances, it doesn't make sense to me.


Last night we were going out with some friends to have a fun night. I felt like he was being over friendly to the waitress, but I blew it off. When it was closing time, he was going to help his friend take some things to his car. I guess the waitress was going to show him the way through the back door. We were outside in the front and all I saw when I looked up was him going inside with this waitress and NOT coming back out. I went looking for him and found him in the back of the restaurant in the parking lot. I tried to explain to him how it looked to

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: brayleigh54
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 6:13pm

Welcome to the board brayleigh54,


Since you've been through this with him before, I say trust your gut feeling. If it feels like it did before, then it's probably the same thing again, sorry to say.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: brayleigh54
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 2:37pm

Welcome to the board brayleigh54,


Money problems/issues are one of the main causes for divorce these days. So it isn't out of the question that concerns about finances are causing this change in him.


The cell phone thing is a red flag for me though. I think you just need to call him out on it.

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