need help.............

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Registered: 05-15-2007
need help.............
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Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:07pm
I need serious help here. My boyfriend and I been dating for almost half year and his ex still contact him everyday. His ex is a crazy woman, and tried to suicide before. She doesnt know about me and my boyfriend keeps lying to her everyday. Recently, she told my boyfriend that she wants him back, and she wants him so much in her life. My boyfriends still doesnt tell her the truth that he has a girlfriend, having female friends (she doesnt like my boyfriend to have ANY female friends), parties, and drink. She has no idea at all how his life look like right now, because my boyfriend scares that she will kill herself. She sent him a long email today telling him how much she wants him back in her life. This hurt me a lot, and I dont know what else I can do.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:57pm

Welcome to the board coodylau,


Your bf is allowing himself to be manipulated by his ex and her 'threat' of suicide.

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 7:31pm

I agree with Carrie. He is allowing her to manipulate him and threats of suicide are a form of abuse and control. He's not responsible for her and he is disrespecting you and your relationship by not being honest with her about you and continuing to babysit her. She is the only one responsible for her life and her choices.

Helping out a friend is one thing but he is carrying her.

Good luck - I wouldn't put up with it.