Need help adjusting

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Registered: 10-04-2004
Need help adjusting
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:23pm
to being a single parent who isn't single.

My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have two boys 9 and 12. Both are becoming active in outside activies. My husband drives a truck for a living. He is out of town 2 nights a week, he is off on Wednesday and the weekends. I work out of my home full time and go to school one night a week. Because of his schedule and work hours it is left to me to get the kids to and from their activities during the week. Here is the problem.

The past three weeks (including the weekends) I have had the responsiblity of the kids. I'm tired and frustrated. Needless to say I have been feeling less than affectionate towards my husband. Well, thing seem to have escalated this weekend to the point we are not speaking to each other and he went out all weekend.

I don't know how to make him understand that I need him to help more. Wash the kids uniforms on Wednesday's night while I'm at school. Take the kids to karate on Tuesday's if he can't do it on Saturday. His agruement is all I have to do is ask. My problem is I don't think I should have to ask every time. I have asked in general that he help me out by doing some things. Why should I have to ask for each and every thing, he knows what needs to be done.

How do I handle this. I can't keep up the pace and can't deal with the frustration much more.


Edited 10/4/2004 2:27 pm ET ET by atroubledwife

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 3:21pm
Keep askiing.....ask him (without anger and resentment) every time you want or need help.


Carrie

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 10-04-2004 - 4:15pm
Men aren't mind readers. Also, they are often less "tuned in" to the rhythms and schedule of a household. Just assign him certain duties.