Need help this is frustrating!!!

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Registered: 01-08-2004
Need help this is frustrating!!!
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Mon, 09-27-2004 - 1:54pm
Hey guys,

I have a really big problem. I have been friends with this guy for a year. He has been through alot with me, breakup with one of his acquaintence, and other things. My biggest thing is that he would dropped hints to me about when we are going to hang out and he would flirt with me big time and still do. Well then i told him how i felt and he said that he didnt want a girlfriend so i respected that and went on vacation. Then i call him while i was out of town and he told me that he had called me and wanted to know why i did not answer my phone. That is where he started acting like the boyfriend. And from that point on he always ask me where i am at, who i am with, but i would do the same. Well then my friend called him and asked him flat out what we were. Because his actions were not adding up with what he has said awhile back. Well he told her that we are just friends and that he didnt want to be committed to anybody right now, well ever since then everything has been different. We dont talk much anymore, only once or twice a week. The subject has not even been brought up again. I dont know what to do or how to react to what is going on with him. Is he scared?? Please help me... There is more to the story but i will save it for later.. Just let me know what ya think.. Thanks

Ashley

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 3:04pm
No, he's not "scared", except maybe of you thinking that he's really into you as more than a friend when he's not (which may be why he's backing off...to give you time to recognize that he's really not interested in you that way).

If he were really interested in dating you, he would not have told you what he did. In dating, the old axiom that actions speak louder than words has a caveat: *unless* the words are saying something you don't want to hear, in which case you need to pay attention to the words!

Sheri