Need help - no comparison

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Need help - no comparison
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:11pm
My fiance decided to call off the wedding two months before our wedding date. He told me that he needs to live life and experience what is out there. Throughout our eight year relationship, he has always had these feels but was able to keep them down. He told me that with the wedding getting closer and closer these feelings just got worse. He hasn't been able to sleep or think. He loves me and our relationship. He says it's the best, but unfortunately, he has nothing to compare it to. I am the only girl that he has dated and kissed. We never had sex because we wanted to wait till we were married. He says that he still wants me to be the first. I love him deeply, but I am miserable without him. Since the news, I have been living with some friends. It has been one week. I keep hoping that he will call to get back togther. We are still on talking terms and are very able to have a civil conversation. We both agree that we want to keep each other in our lives. He is so confused and so am I. Should I wait for him or move on? I can't imagine my life without him. We are both moping around wondering what to do. Please help!!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 7:05pm
I guess I just assumed that if NEITHER of you wanted kids, then you would have something permanent done to ensure no pregnancies would occur. But maybe you aren't sure, and maybe you don't like invasive procedures. Sorry for assuming.

 

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