Need Help with our Sex Life

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Need Help with our Sex Life
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 10:18am

Leigha 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 10:28am

You say that your husband is "not attracted to you". That is a very devastating statement. Why not? This is the real question. Often sex becomes a problem and attraction disappears because of emotional, psychological issues, not necessarily physical ones. When there is secret resentment, or feelings of upset or deprivation, sexual attraction can disappear. I strongly suggest that both of you seek some psychological counseling to understand what is truly going on here, in the marriage, and in your love life. Sometimes sex therapy is advised..but first, it's important to look deeper at what is causing the lack of attraction. How can it be possible to have a satisfying sexual relationship when attraction is missing? Also, this must cause a great deal of pain to you and be very bad for your self esteem.


Get professional help with this, not just medical help, but psychological counseling and perhaps also some sex therapy later on.


All good wishes,

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:20am

Welcome to the board ready4baby2007,


I would be a little worried that your husband doesn't find you physically attractive. If you want to work on your weight do it for yourself and to get healthy for pregnancy don't just do it for your husband.


You could try dressing up in sexy outfits to get your husband in the mood or perhaps giving him lap dances or doing a sexy dance for him.


You might also want to check out the Let's Talk about Sex board. Here is a link to it http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/listsf.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&nav=start

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 12:34pm

Welcome to the board ready4baby2007,


::First, my husband is not physically attracted to me. I know it sounds strange, but we don't kiss or make out, but we don't love each other any less.


This is so sad to me... but I want to ask, do you not kiss and make out because one of you doesn't like it or because neither of you expresses that it's important to you or doesn't initiate it?