NEED HELP!! .. PLEASE!!!!

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Registered: 12-29-2003
NEED HELP!! .. PLEASE!!!!
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Mon, 12-29-2003 - 10:39am
Me and my husband are seperated and I just found out I am pregnant. He is telling me that I am selfish for wanting to keep it. Plus if I do keep it he wants a divorce. I don't know if he is just confused or what. We are both very young. I don't know what to do? Please I need help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2003
Mon, 12-29-2003 - 11:00am
How old are you? What do YOUwant to do? Do you have family that could help you?

Answer these questions and perhaps we can help, but you have not provided us with much information.

I will tell you that as a single mother (I split from my husband two weeks after the birth) it is incredibly hard work to raise a child with no support from the other parent, but it really depends where your head is at with this - if this is something that you WANT.

Peace - Pebbles

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 12-29-2003 - 11:46am
Regardless of how confused he is, he doesn't sound very supportive. He obviously is not going to be there for you and your child. Please don't romanticise this and assume he will come around once he meets the child. Sounds like he might want a divorce regarless.

Are you prepared to be a single mom? Do you have a good support system?

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:35pm
I am 20 years old. My husband is 21. About a month ago (of coarse before I found out I was pregnant) he wanted and asked me for a baby. When he got his motorcycle is now when he is not ready, he's too young, blah blah. We have been married for almost 3 years. Yes, I want to keep my baby. My mom says she will help but she has two jobs as is. I don't want to put this burden on her.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 5:37pm
My mom says she will help me like she has always. I don't know if I am ready to be single but I do know I want to keep my baby.