Need Help in saving my mairrage

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2008
Need Help in saving my mairrage
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 9:57am

Hi,


I and my husband has been together since past 14 yrs we had long distance relation we use to chat and talk almost everyday then eventually one day he told me he had sex with one of his gf and was sorry about it I was very upset and didn't wanted to continue relation with him but eventually he convinced me that it was a mistake and he would not talk to her any more or have any kind of relation with her then we got married I was living with my inlaws and had lot of problems dealing with them so our sex life was a hell there were lot of times when we went on a vacation but somehow I was never interested in sex so we just did some foreplay but hardly had any sexual pleasure then eventually I learned that he is watching pornography and was attracted more toward them then towards me so I started feeling bad about it and was getting very upset every time I found it thenI read it some where that sex is very important for a relation and I realized my mistakes that because of my stress with family I almost ignored his wants so I decided to read more about it and have a better understanding but suddenly I saw some mails from my hubby to the same old friends in which he has mentioned how much he misses her and he loves her and he would like to meet her so I was very upset with him and decided to step out of our relation

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:55pm

Welcome to the board goddess_wxyz,


Would your husband be willing to go to marriage counseling with you? Don't put all the blame on yourself. Your husband is the one who cheated and has remained in contact with this girl and is also not communicating well with you. There are two of you in the relationship and both people need to be putting forth an effort to fix things.