Need some good advice please!!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Need some good advice please!!
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 2:53pm
I'll try to make a long story short...

My ex, was with him for about 6 years, we have a 2 year old daughter. I left him about 7 months ago, due to fighting, cheating, him leaving me at home all the time by myself while he went out with friends. I am now engaged to a man I have known for about 5 years, he is wonderful to me. I still see my ex a lot because we have our daughter together and we still do family things together like go to the park, zoo... things like that.

Just recently he's been realizing things about himself and working on changing them. He's becoming a better person and has come to realize how bad he was to me. Well I have found myself wondering about if we got back together if we could make it work. I don't really know if I'm in love with him, but know that if we did get back together, that I could fall in love with him again. I love my fiancee, he's great. Maybe I just got into this new relationship too fast without dealing with the emotions and hurt of my relationship with my ex. I don't know, but I have no idea where to start now. Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 4:58pm
Yikes. It's pretty normal to start seeing changes in someone and wonder 'what if' that doesn't mean you should 'go for it.'

The grass is not greener. Maybe you should consider counseling to help you sort through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 5:04pm
For the sake of your daughter, please see a counselor. You can't consider two people to spend your life with. It doesn't make sense. Either you want to marry your fiance or you don't.

How has he changed? What did he do to change? Can you see the change by his behavior or is it just talk.

Maybe you need to spend time alone to figure this out.