Need some help...

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2007
Need some help...
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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 6:15am

Hi,


My husband is working in retail industry, works 14 hours (double shift) for 6 days week. On weekends he is tired and wants to relax. Our children need his time and attention. The last dinner (that was for my birthday) was in august 2007. We have not been out since then even for coffee... he is not interested to go out.. coz he travels a lot. I am sad and confused, I have tried to talk to him but he says wait for another 2 years until our financial goals are met. Don't make any demands on me till then... I feel frustated at time. Now he has not had a day off since 3 weeks and I barely talk to him over the phone, the first thing he does when he wakes up in the morning is look at the mobile phone for any calls.


I am working and talking care of all things at home, I don't want him to help doing household chores, but I need him to give me some attention. I am feeling very lonely. Please help, I need some advise.


Thanks, MC Shekar

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 12:48pm

First, can you get any help with the kids. Hire someone to help you a few hours a day or hire someone to clean the house-maybe a teenager to help after school?


Was his schedule like this when you married him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 1:47pm

Welcome to the board MC Shekar,


::I have tried to talk to him but he says wait for another 2 years until our financial goals are met. Don't make any demands on me till then...


Sometimes I don't think people realize how ridiculous their words sound.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2007
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:46am

Hi,


Thanks for your response, I do have a live in maid with me now (which is not so good but will do for the time being) which helps me get some time if not any company... my husband was working similar hours when we got married, but he was a Assistant Manager at that time... now he has become the Director of the company for operations here which makes him 24/7 workoholic. The only worry and frustration I have is to start with I loved his personality (you know the thoughtful and responsible person) but at the same time now he is so involved with his goals and plans I feel we are not in sync with what we are thinking. This makes me more and more frustrated by the day. And the children miss their father, he is barely able to spend 10 mins with my daughters in a day. Because of his social position I feel like an outcast to talk to any of my friends here, coz I am afraid they will judge me to be a whiner.


thanks & regards,


MC Shekar