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Need some help figuring the best path
| Sat, 06-11-2011 - 3:55pm |
I'm looking for some practical, down-to-earth advice.
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Just because you never argued, does not mean the relationship is ideal.
My Grandmother has always said "you
I'm taking the fact that you never argued as simply ignoring problems, until they blow up big time, as they have now.
I wish I could give you better input, but I'm really not clear as to what the problems are, exactly.
I interpret you 'never having
True Blue, Your intepretation is much closer to the truth.
Reading your second post........I will repeat what I said in my first reply.
I agree with the previous poster.
OP, you have red flags written all over but the fact remains that he doesnt want a relationship with you. Excuses can range from a headache to IRS .The reason he doesnt want to go to the cousellor is that he doesnt want anyone to change his mind about breaking up with you.He doesnt want to be talked back.Simple.You can analyze him, his past , his past relationships to death but it wouldnt , once again, change the fact that he is done with you, whatever the reason.
No arguing is basically a major red flag, agree it or not.
Who knows that he has found someone else and is not telling you ?
You say ,the house is big enough and he could stay in the upper apartment but OTOH he is staying in the hotel? Why?
All in all, you are beating a dead horse and then whining that why isnt it working.You are old enough to get it , sorry.
He agreed to talk with me tonight but insisted on it being in a restaurant. I refused. He got nasty (via text message - that seems to be the only way he has any courage). I stood my ground and he backed down the tiniest bit. I don't think he's cruel enough or hateful enough to throw me out on the street but I guess we'll find out.
At this point, I realize you're all right and I don't want him back. I just want to make this transition as easy as possible. Why do relationships have to end up so hateful? Why can't he just put the sexual side of our relationship away and remain friends. Geez ... what an idiot.
By the way, if any of you know of any admin jobs in Indy? I'm one helluva executive assistant or office manager!
Wish me luck ... he's finally agreed to come here to talk tonight. If I have any sanity left after this, it'll be a miracle.
Hi;
Yeah; wow.. The guy has I always say came with a not so good resume.... So of course you saw that and bought a house with him?
That makes no sense to me that you would take the chance of taking on someone's fiancial instability that you knew about and go out and mix the finances; buy a house together and then fix the house?
None of this makes much sense when you knew who
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