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| Mon, 06-02-2008 - 4:14pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 yrs & 3 mos. Things started out very well. We were actually that couple that no one wanted to hang out with because we were so perfect. Lol. We were both 19 at the time. We did a lot of partying together, drank, smoked here & there.. etc. The sex was great.. We were great all around. This was all however during the "honeymoon phase".
Through the years things slowly went downhill. He didnt treat me as well as he did at first.. I know all relationships change over time but things are so different now. I'll talk about our most recent status and see what everyone thinks.
For the past 8 months or so, I have just not been very happy. I also suffer from depression & anxiety with low self-esteem which I dont think he understands at all. He says he does but his actions speak otherwise.

Welcome to the board swthrt_1123,
I'm going to ask the obvious, 'and you are still with him because?'
Welcome to the board swthrt_1123,
It doesn't sound like you are happy at all in the relationship right now. Plus for me the pot use would be a deal breaker.
I personally think it is time for you to move on from this relationship. It doesn't seem like it is right for you.
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Whoa.
If you gave me a pencil and paper and asked me to describe a man who is the LEAST possible compatible match for you... I'd describe him exactly the way you did!!
This man is downright horrible for you. It sounds as though being without a boyfriend to you is kind of a scary thought, right? But honestly I think that if you were not with him, you would see yourself having better self esteem and feeling better about your life in general. With him it's just a downward spiral. You deserve someone who not only is compatible with you, but someone who makes you happy. Breaking up is tough, no joke - but I think you're going to have to do it - or else, you're just waiting for this relationship to magically get better when he's just not going to change into who you really want to be with.
It's imperative that you start breaking up with him NOW rather than later. He sounds like someone who could make this turn ugly very quickly.
He doesn't bring out the best in you. Why are you in a relationship that doesn't make you feel good, when that is the ONLY purpose to have a relationship at all??
He is only a man. While being in a relationship - even if you are miserable most of the time - may give you a sense of comfort and security that someone wants you and loves you even if he treats you like crap, the truth is that this is not the only man in the world. He is a jerk. It is better to be single, and giving yourself every OPPORTUNITY to find someone great for you, than to waste your life with someone who never will be. Best of luck.
Edited 6/2/2008 4:54 pm ET by eggbertshootsfire
It sounds like he's changed in a way that doesnt suit you.