Need support for what I'm doing

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Registered: 06-23-2001
Need support for what I'm doing
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Mon, 08-27-2007 - 6:42pm

Hello ...I have posted here before and Dr. S has helped. About my daughter in Australia who's having a baby. We've gone from "You don't have to go" to "go for a week or 10 days" to "2 1/2 weeks is good". The complication or actually good thing is that one of my daughters who lives here in USA is going to be out west in LA and in San Francisco for meetings. She will be in SF at the time I come into the country from Australia. I am planning on leaving Sept 28 and coming back around the 19 or 20. He has said he wanted me to come back on Oct 14 or 15 and I say it's only 3 days until the 18th or 19th when my duaghter will be there. He wants to go visit his son and then drive to SF. I said to him..we can drive down to see your son (who is close to me) in Palmdale and go through Napa Valley and have a great week's time. NO, he says...I have things to do. I must go the week before. You would come in on the 14th, we visit my son, then drive to SF. I have things to do the following week and can't be gone. This is BS. He can arrange his schedule any way he wants. I am extremely disappointed in him and to say he is being childish is an understatement. I am not backing down. I think I should visit my daughter for however long I want.

Also he says, "I am not driving you to the airport and will not talk to you when you are gone and not picking you up" Oh, I say, "if I don't do things your way, you will punish me, right? You'll pick up your marbles and leave."

I just need some support for this. I think I am being badgered (hello!) but I am so disappointed and not liking my husband very much. I am not going to knuckle under but am thinking that this whole thing is changing my feeling and respect for him. Is this the kind of relationship I want? It is a bigger issue. Please help.

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Registered: 06-23-2001
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 8:04pm
Hello again. I reread my post and realize I didn't indicate that it was my husband making all these demands. He is a good guy, does laundry, cooks, good in bed...however, did I marry a baby?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:04pm

Welcome back to the board moonbeamawaken,


Here's your previous post so others can get the full story:


Demanding Husband


He's not compromising much is he?




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