Need your advice

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Registered: 01-13-2004
Need your advice
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Tue, 01-13-2004 - 10:28pm
Ok, here's the deal: He admitted to being attracted to this woman before he met me, he sees her often, is her "friend", fixes stuff in her apartment, brings her up in conversation too much for my liking, I've seen them together and his eyes light up when she walks in the room, but she is NOT interested in him at all!

How do I deal with this? I don't look like her in any way. We are completely different personality wise. And even though he says he's not interested in her anymore and he'll stop doing her favors and stop talking about her so much, I still get the feeling that if she gave him any kind of inclination that she's interested in him, he'd dump me in a minute to be with her.

I'm not jealous of any other women in his life. I'm not usually a jealous type of person. Only this one has me seeing green. How do I deal with this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 1:52pm
Questions:

How long have you known him? How long have you been going out / living together?

He's admitting all this about her, still lights up when he sees her, not good signs for trying to build a relationship with anyone else, namely you. Especially if at some point she gave him the green light and you feel he would jump at the chance.....

What do you want? If he's unable to put distance between them and he's still *in to her* how can he ever make you feel secure in the relationship? Trust your gut feeling.


Carrie