NeedAdvice Please

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Registered: 04-22-2004
NeedAdvice Please
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 8:10am
If anyone has read my post * depression and marriage * i would love some comments. I love my wife very much and with her going thru perimenopause and depression, I am having a hard time dealing with when she comes home on weekends and leaves on sunday. It hurts knowing that she is so great around me, loving, caring and comfortable that she cant seem to think she could feel this way thru the week altho she has said its beginning to hurt a bit leaving on sundays. She has told me she is scared to come move home because shes afraid she will leave again. One advice columnist wrote me thinking that maybe theres more goin on than depression but my wife has assured me and promised me this has nothing to do with anyone else and one thing she feels is she has to quit her job to make this work. I have some freinds who have said to kick her butt to the curb, even my 2 sons feel i should tell her to stop doing this to me and she herself has told me to not let her S**t all over me. I feel like i want to tell her to stay away on weekends and get some counseling and deal with this but she says she would never get thru this without me. I am afraid that even tho she says she wants her mind back and her family back, that this could push her over the edge. Please anyone with comments and advice is much appreciated. Thankyou
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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: jad88
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 1:51pm
I did reply to your other post about depression and I still maintain what I had suggested about the counseling. I just think that if you don't act soon you will be stuck in the rut for a long time to come. She may need a little more of a push and you need to tell her that the marriage is in jeopardy. Though you love her immensely and would love nothing more than to have her come home for good you won't continue to live this way without some effort on her part, which would be marriage counseling and individual for her (if this is an option you choose and think might help). I think by giving her some choices to make she will go one way or the other, she won't keep you wondering what is going to happen anymore, and you'll know the fate of your marriage. Just my opinion.

Jennifer

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