Needing advice about pushing him away
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|Sat, 06-09-2012 - 9:52am|
Me and my boyfriend have been together for around 8 months. We've had our ups and downs, and are still working on buiding a strong relationship. I know my fear of breaking up, along with my trust issues, causes a lot of fights. He's been nothing but good to me, but since this is his first long-term relationship, I feel sometimes he just gets it wrong. He'll invite other friends who are girls out to his "guys night" without even texting me all night. He'll make last minute plans with friends when I assumed we'd hang out together. He'll go hours without getting in touch. We haven't even said I love you yet, which also worries me.
I can't help but be upset about some of these things that he does, and I can't suppress my feelings. I'll always bring it up to him, and it usually ends in a fight. He says I don't want him to be happy or hang out with anyone but me, and he feels like he can't share certain things in his life with me. I'm definitely pushing him away, but I can't stop.
This weekend, he's at his sister's wedding out of town. It's a flight away, and we went around and around about me going to it with him, even when I was invited, and ultimately decided I wouldn't go. I've tried to come to peace with that decision and move on, making other plans to keep me occupied this weekend. However, I feel that this is also something he feels like he can't share with me. He's barely contacted me at all since he's been there for four days so far, and I've found myself waiting to hear from him. Surrounded by many friends who are engaged and getting married and in love, I'd hope I'd be a small thought on his mind and he'd at least send me a text here or there. When I confronted him about it via message last night, he just said he hoped I wasn't mad and he's just busy. I told him we'll talk when he's back in town and he's sent no response. Too busy to text me, but not too busy to update his facebook several times.
Should I be worried about the status of our relationship, or am I overreacting? Part of me thinks I should end things, because I'm just not happy with myself, or the relationship. I know if we worked on it, it could be good. We ARE very smitten with each other and usually have a good time together. I just don't know where to go from here. I don't think I'm strong enough to end it.