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needing space
| Fri, 05-28-2004 - 4:29am |
I have been seeing a friend now for 4 and a half months. We began emailimg each other 2 months before we met...we told all, and agreed to meet. At first we dated, seeing each other on weekends, and he called me every day. About 2 months into the relationship he wanted me at his place daily.....then a couple weeks ago he came up with "I need some space, I am not ready to hook up, I just came out of a bad relationship" I was confused.
He has been divorced 5 times, the last marriage left him homeless, penniless, and jobless. She was an abusive alcoholic whom he trusted and he tried so hard to make it work. he is deeply in debt, and had recently gotten hired full time where he was a temp for 6 months. He works long hours, has a few health concerns, and is stressed. However he calls me every evening when he gets home ,before he gets ready for bed. We talk for nearly an hour at a time...he takes me dancing on weekends,wants to take more dance lessons, wants to tutor me if I take up nursing school and shows public displays of affection. Is this behavior normal ? He calls me his girlfriend , but feels he needs to do some boy things like playing soccer with the kids in the park, or shooting hoops, or riding his bike more. He has been very open with me on his financial status, trusts me in every way.....Do we have a chance? Is he afraid of jumping in too soon?
He has been divorced 5 times, the last marriage left him homeless, penniless, and jobless. She was an abusive alcoholic whom he trusted and he tried so hard to make it work. he is deeply in debt, and had recently gotten hired full time where he was a temp for 6 months. He works long hours, has a few health concerns, and is stressed. However he calls me every evening when he gets home ,before he gets ready for bed. We talk for nearly an hour at a time...he takes me dancing on weekends,wants to take more dance lessons, wants to tutor me if I take up nursing school and shows public displays of affection. Is this behavior normal ? He calls me his girlfriend , but feels he needs to do some boy things like playing soccer with the kids in the park, or shooting hoops, or riding his bike more. He has been very open with me on his financial status, trusts me in every way.....Do we have a chance? Is he afraid of jumping in too soon?

Best wishes....
Listen to yourself hun....he needs space cuz he just got out of a bad relationship?It sounds like he's had about five of those already!You say he's in debt and in por health....
With that said, he is in no condition to be commiting to anyone, the man cant even commit to himself. He is afraid of commitment, hence the 5x divorce...and he doesnt care about his own health, let alone have the ability to care about someone elses. His debt, which if you ever were to marry, would be your debt, sounds like enough stress alone to hender any healthy relationship.
Basically, Its obvious that you care, and that he cares for you. However, I think it would be your best interest to not get involved with this type of individual.
Best wishes,