Needing Space..Is this the end?
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Needing Space..Is this the end?
| Tue, 03-30-2004 - 6:28pm |
Let me begin by saying that I love my fiance very much. We met a few months after my ex ended our 5 year relationship. We were both very attracted to each other, more than just sex...infact we were together 4 months before we had sex. I told him when we began dating that I didn't want to push anything and if it happened great, if not I had a really great friend. Naturally things picked up and here we are today, 2 years later with a lovely home in the suburbs, 5 cats and a wedding in a year. So here's my problem. I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety disorder in January after nearly four months of well..depression and anxiety attacks. I have been out of work most of those four months and I just feel so disconnected with everything. I feel like I am simply going through the motions in our relationship. I have no interest in sex, but that could be the medication I am taking. Because of that we haven't had sex in nearly a month and I feel bad about it. Lately I feel like I have been needing space, time away from the relationship so I can better get myself in order and to simply make sure this is what I want. Does it mean that our relationship was simply a rebound because I need my space? Being "sick" has forced me to revaluate a lot of the things in my life. It's almost like we are trying to relearn how to be in a relationship. See, we were very close at the beginning, we were always together and such. After the anxiety attacks began I became clingy and needy to the point that I would have an attack when he had to go to work. Things have settled down a lot since then. For one I am in counseling and he has agreed to attend a session and get a recomendation about couples counseling and two I am on medication I can actually handle. It still feels like we are pulling away from each other though. I'm not a very sexually expressive person. Sex with my fiance is great don't get me wrong, it's more personal prefrence. That and a bad expreience as a child then again with my first real boyfriend. So does it mean that we are over or he was a rebound because I want to take some time for myself away from the relationship? And advice would be welcomed. Thank you for letting me vent here.
Peace,
Jen
Peace,
Jen
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| Tue, 03-30-2004 - 6:44pm |
i don't think he's a rebound. you are just having a rough time, and you need to get this straightened up on your own. it's not your fault and not his fault. hopefully he could be understanding. maybe you should go on a little vacation or something. good luck!
