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| Tue, 07-13-2004 - 10:14am |
This is not the end of the story. We have to try really hard to hire someone right away because both of my husband and I work full time outside of our house. Again, we are both very pleased with our professions and the jobs we have. It is the child care problem deliberately sabotaged by the vicious and jealous people in this society. One woman I work with happens to live in the same community and also know the middle person of the Au Pair agency. She seems to be resentful about my workable relationship with my Au Pair because she pays a lot more to hire a nanny. I am under tremendous pressure to pay a huge amount for child care! This woman is by no means a bad witch type of person. She has two children at the similar ages of my children. She used to be so nice and easy to talk with. From my prior conversation with her, I knew her husband was out of jobs for quite some time and she had to be responsible for her family incomes. Although she has a four bedroom house, she does not like the idea of live-in nanny. It is her choice of hiring whoever she wants with whatever price she is willing to pay. Au Pair system has been around in this nation for fifteen years. I did not invent the affordable child care program and I certainly did not like the huge up front program fee for the host families. It is not the system is to be condemned. It is the discriminating local coordinator and the agency is not fair to us!
Consider the supply greatly over the demand in the nanny job market due to the cycles of economy, it is fairly reasonable for me to research and survey and come up with a very acceptable budget for child care. Why should I be hated for making my decision simply because the woman is the HR director in the company I work for and she has access to my private information? During other conversations with her, I kind of figure out that she may not be as financially savvy as other women I work with. America is a free country. People are free to make individual decisions. There is no rule about the certified professional financial analysts/planners have to be really good at their own household budget and personal finance. I feel frustrated to see the friendship decline between her and me. It is not that I have to have her friendship in order to survive in the company. It is just that I feel sad to see people change capriciously for the wrong reason.
I am dread of becoming close friends with the neighbors! Sometimes it can be too close to comfort. Although I will never take the pressure for "beating the Jones" in a million years, I have no intention to become a scapegoat for whatever reason in the affluent community and in the eyes of all the good mothers.
