Never wanting to get married
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| Sat, 09-27-2008 - 4:27am |
thank you all ahead of time-- for any advice you can give.
my situation:
my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. i am 23 and he is 27. this is not my first serious relationship, but it is his. i love him more then anything in the world, and can absolutely see a future together. he is sweet, great, loving, wonderful etc etc etc
problem is, he never wants to get married. literally...he says " i never want to get married". why you ask? NO REASON! happily married parents, many friends getting married...etc. he just seems to have a negative idea about it.
6 months into our relationship ( 1.5 yrs ago), he broke up with me saying he doesnt see a future together because he knows i want to get married and he doesnt, and he doesnt want to waste my time, and this is so hard because he loves me so much.....i was miserable...heartbroken, and depressed. a month later ( no contact pretty much, besides a few i love you texts here and there), he calls me to meet up and we did..and basically got back together. he said he made a huge mistake and we decided just not to " plan the future" or talk about it. fine with me, i am in no hurry for anything, just happy to be with the guy i love so much.
so here we are 2 years together. like i said, i am still in school and have a while to go, and am in NO hurry to get married; but i guess it hurts knowing that i am with someone that says he never wants to get married? we never really sit down and talk about it, nor will i make him give me answers, partially because i am not ready for it now anyway, and am n ot in a hurry also because i dont think its worth losing him or our relationship.
i guess also, i think secretly that maybe he doesnt mean it? maybe he will eventually change his mind. he has no good reasons for it, and says so himself. maybe one day in the future he will want to get married? maybe he says this now, no to get my hopes up?
i dont know. what do you guys think?

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Totally agree with you POV.
Rachel
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