New man still attached to his exgf
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| Sun, 08-26-2007 - 10:08am |
Hello,
I have been dating a man for a couple of months. We met about four months ago but due to his overseas work travel, have really only dated for two. I suspected he was seeing someone overseas and asked him about it. We had not talked of prior relationship history before. He had lived with this woman in the US for several years, and after he could not commit marriage to her, she left. This was two or three years ago. He said they were too different (to marry her) but that she was like family to him and they are still very close. They broke it off but continue to see eachother from time to time when his work travels take him abroad . The visits in the past were not always platonic. I know now
he has seen her twice since we met (only a couple weeks to a month after we met), but he says they did not sleep together. I don't really believe this but since I had just met him, there's not much I can do. Has not had a gf since her. To further complicate things, he supports her financially while she gets a degree and she works part time. Not sure of her age...we are both in later 30's. I don't understand the financial arrangement and am afraid there is more, that for whatever reason, he cannot/will not break the ties. I know I need more info from him...but am not sure anymore if I want to see him since there will always be a third person...while he and I were on a date, he got a phone call from abroad (and left me at home on a Saturday night to return the call)...so clearly, she is a priority.
For us, it's so early on, we had not even talked about seeing eachother exclusively etc. It seems to me their relationship is not over, that maybe he is still not over her...unfortunately, I really like this guy. But is this hopeless? How do I handle this? I don't want to get too involved with him if he's unable or unwilling to make me a priority if we keep seeing eachother.
Thanks....

Welcome to the board citygirrrl,
Wow, while he didn't marry her, he acts married to her due to the level of attachment he has with her.