New Relationship Advice Needed

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Registered: 01-24-2004
New Relationship Advice Needed
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Sat, 01-24-2004 - 9:26pm
I have known this guy for 5 years since highschool and we used to go out off and on then and talk on the phone. We stopped talking for a few years and we started talking again recently. While we stopped talking, he had a baby that is now 5 months and is broken up with his baby's mother. I ran into him about 3 months ago and he got my number at the local gym we have gone out several times and hit if off very well. He even asked me what I am doing for Valentines day, when can he see me again etc., he even said he didn't want me to leave...Now since we started talking, he has told me that he has been trying to get with me for years and he wants me to be his woman. All of his friends know he likes me because he always talks about me. Everytime he sees one of my best girlfriends, he always asks her about me and what I am doing etc..she never brings me up...he does.

But there is one problem...on our last date at his place, we hit off good, watched tv, and enjoyed eachothers company, he even gave me a sweet goodbye kiss---it's been a week now he won't call me and I am totally confused. He had been calling and calling me, at first for a month and now I can't even get a phonecall! It's been about a week now and I have started to form some feelings for him and he won't call me. I called him once, and he said he would call me right back but never did...what should I think? What should I do or shouldn't do? We have never slept together either.
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Sun, 01-25-2004 - 1:58pm
How come no one is responding to my question. I really would like some advice. Is it because I am new?
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Sun, 01-25-2004 - 3:00pm

It sounds like, for whatever reason, he's re-considering dating you.

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Sun, 01-25-2004 - 3:05pm
But this is just too bafoling to me. I haven't given him a reason to re-consider dating me. He told me that he wanted ME to be HIS lady...not me. I said, we can when the time is right. Also, he has wanted me for years and I never gave him any play. The last time I saw him, at the end of our date...he gave me the sweetest kiss, asked me what I am doing tomorrow, V-Day, and he said he didn't want me to go back home. So he is totally confusing me.....
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 01-25-2004 - 3:41pm
He's totally confusing you because he is confused. You do need to just throw it into reverse...for your own sake. You are over-analyzing the situation when there really isn't a need. Typically men don't over-analyze their actions. They keep it simple (for themselves) and us women come along and analyze the crap out of every word that comes out of their mouths and every single move they make. I know; I do this a lot myself.

Just back off. If he's interested he will come back around. In the meantime just find some other things you like to do. Go out with your friends. Meet new people. If you sit around waiting for him not only are you wasting your valuable time but I think men find it more attractive when they see that us women have lives outside of them.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Sun, 01-25-2004 - 4:08pm
Thanks! I haven't called back. I called once or twice and he said he would call back but hasn't. It's only been a week, maybe I am just being impatient.