New w/ a Vent-

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Registered: 01-11-2004
New w/ a Vent-
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 2:42am
I am involved with a military guy, and have just been through two deployments in the past year. I also have a full time job that I am VERY unhappy with...but there are not a lot of job options around here. Anyway, the deployments were very stressful, especially the second one. He returned a couple of weeks ago, only to have to leave again to another base to train. I didn't get to spend much time with him during those two weeks because of my job. :( This job and his deployments have stressed me out to the point that I feel sick on the stomach lately.

I don't know if it is the experience he had, but in a way he is not being himself, and in a way he is. I kept getting the feeling I was bothering him when I called the past week. He was always busy, eating, etc. He assured me I wasn't, he loved me, wanted to spend his life with me, blah, blah, blah. I just wanted him to know I was having a rough week and to bear with me.

Tonight I had to call him regarding a bill (power of attorney stuff), and he was in a bar, and talking to other people (while I was on the phone-annoying) I said I wasn't trying to bother him (not even really meaning it) but had to discuss something. He said he was gonna make him mad if I kept saying that...anyway, nice chit chat and he said he was gonna call me back when he got back to his room- He didn't, and did not pick up his phone. Not like him at all. This is not what I need right now. Sorry so long, I just do not know what to do or think. I had to get this out.

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:33am
What ever you do, don't do what I did. Do not keep it in. Tell your husband exactly what is wrong and how you feel. Call him, e-mail or send a letter, but do not keep it inside. If you stop communicating you will have nothing.