New..Husband, Baby and Sex
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New..Husband, Baby and Sex
| Thu, 12-27-2007 - 1:13pm |
Hi there, this is the first time I've been on this board and I'm glad I found it.
| Thu, 12-27-2007 - 1:13pm |
Hi there, this is the first time I've been on this board and I'm glad I found it.
Welcome to the board mrsclark2006,
After a baby, your hormones can really play havoc with your desire for sex. It could be your hormones, have you talked to your doctor?
Hi Carrie, thank you for your reply.
Welcome to the board mrsclark2006,
If this sex issue is affecting you this much, I don't think I would wait until next month to talk to the doctor about it. Consider giving them a call before hand.
I am sure him asking you for sex everyday isn't helping matters any either.
Best of luck to you and congrats on your beautiful baby.
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Congratulations on your baby!!
I'm sure you are aware by now that after having a baby (and three months is very recent!) your your body is only beginning to recuperate hormonally. There's a period that you go through biologically where you're getting back to "normal" and you just aren't ready for another baby. The thing is, the desire to have sex is - at the very basic physical level - a desire to procreate, and your body is telling you "not yet". Your uterus doesn't know what birth control is, it just wants a rest for a while :) And combine that with the stress of taking care of a new baby... Sex is probably one of the last things you really want.
Hopefully Mirena will work for you, I've heard instances of women regaining a sex drive because of it. Don't feel as though you need to force yourself into intercourse, there isn't anything wrong with you. You should not feel guilty, and your husband should not be pushing you so hard. The fact is that most men are always ready for sex, and they simply don't know what it feels like to just not want sex at all. I hope he is more patient with you; you should be firm with him and let him know that you're doing the best you can but that being pressured makes you want it even less. Also there are other ways besides intercourse...
You know I never thought about it that way.
I remember when my babies were young, I felt overwhelmed with 'giving'.