New..Husband, Baby and Sex

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Registered: 01-31-2007
New..Husband, Baby and Sex
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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 1:13pm

Hi there, this is the first time I've been on this board and I'm glad I found it.

 

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:04pm

Welcome to the board mrsclark2006,


After a baby, your hormones can really play havoc with your desire for sex. It could be your hormones, have you talked to your doctor?

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Registered: 01-31-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:14pm

Hi Carrie, thank you for your reply.

 

 

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:20pm

Welcome to the board mrsclark2006,


If this sex issue is affecting you this much, I don't think I would wait until next month to talk to the doctor about it. Consider giving them a call before hand.


I am sure him asking you for sex everyday isn't helping matters any either.


Best of luck to you and congrats on your beautiful baby.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:02pm

Congratulations on your baby!!

I'm sure you are aware by now that after having a baby (and three months is very recent!) your your body is only beginning to recuperate hormonally. There's a period that you go through biologically where you're getting back to "normal" and you just aren't ready for another baby. The thing is, the desire to have sex is - at the very basic physical level - a desire to procreate, and your body is telling you "not yet". Your uterus doesn't know what birth control is, it just wants a rest for a while :) And combine that with the stress of taking care of a new baby... Sex is probably one of the last things you really want.

Hopefully Mirena will work for you, I've heard instances of women regaining a sex drive because of it. Don't feel as though you need to force yourself into intercourse, there isn't anything wrong with you. You should not feel guilty, and your husband should not be pushing you so hard. The fact is that most men are always ready for sex, and they simply don't know what it feels like to just not want sex at all. I hope he is more patient with you; you should be firm with him and let him know that you're doing the best you can but that being pressured makes you want it even less. Also there are other ways besides intercourse...

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Registered: 01-31-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:25pm

You know I never thought about it that way.

 

 

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:55pm

I remember when my babies were young, I felt overwhelmed with 'giving'.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 5:37pm
I know what you mean about enjoying it once you get going... I think we've all been there!! In that case, it would REALLY be beneficial to you to put forth the effort to initiate it more. He'll feel very wanted and you'll be glad you did.