No Call In Weeks? Big deal or no biggie?
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No Call In Weeks? Big deal or no biggie?
| Sun, 02-01-2004 - 6:43pm |
I previously told about a guy I started dating again after a two year break. We met in high school and he has told me that he liked me for 6 years! When I went to visit him his friend teased me, " I finally get to meet you, my boy has been trying to get with you for 6 years." This gave me a good incling that this guy really likes and wants to make something with me. Last I saw him (3 weeks ago), he told me he didn't want me to leave, gave me a sweet kiss goodbye, and asked me what I am doing for Valentines day. He said," Do you like flowers and candy?" I said yes that would be nice, and left it alone. It has been a couple of weeks and I haven't heard from him. I called him 2 weeks ago and he told me he would call right back--but never did. I only care because I started liking him again. I hadn't dated him for years, but since he poured his heart out to me, I believed him. But the calling is throwing me off. Also, he has a young baby and while I was over there, his child's mother came over to drop something off for the baby. She just stared at me but no words were exchanged. She just came to the door and left after about 20 seconds. After that, he sat next to me and told me who she was and that was it. I hope that awkward situation didn't blow it. But he invited me over, so I thought it wouldn't be a problem.
I got the impression that he wanted to see me sooner than later. But later has turned into 3 weeks. So I just don't know if he is blowing me off, making me wait so I will miss him, or he has something going on he doesn't want me to know about. When we hooked back up initially, it took him a month to call me and I thought I blew it then. Then it took about three more weeks for him to ask me out, so maybe he is just taking his time. We just rekindled, but I am so impatient. I hate what this is doing to me. Give me some advice, am I worrying unnecesarily or is 3 weeks without a call just plain cold and rude after a fantanstic date????

It is up to you to decide if you are OK with this, or if you are too impatient. Maybe he expects you to make a move at this point (he always called, right?). Or maybe he is indeed blowing you off. I can tell you that I would probably start looking elsewhere. If he ended up calling, I'd go out with him, but I'd make sure to clarify that I am not going to wait another three or four weeks by the phone. If he realizes you are open to going out with other guys, he may decide to stop making you wait.
I used to go out with someone who would disappear for weeks. I liked him a lot, and I found out later on that he was really into me, but eventually I grew tired and started going out with other men. Guess what: I met someone whom I liked a lot more, and who would make no mystery of wanting to see me. We have been together for almost two years and living together.
To sum up, it is up to you. You could 'poke' him with a noncommittal e-mail, if you choose to. But if his timing wear you out, it may be time to look elsewhere.