No Christmas or Birthday Gift from Husband

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Registered: 08-25-2009
No Christmas or Birthday Gift from Husband
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Wed, 12-28-2011 - 4:17pm

My husband and I have been going through rough patches. I recently found out he cheated on my and decided to forgive him and thought we would work things out for th kids. I purchased a jacket for christmas from the kids for him assuming he would get me something too and he didn't

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 7:24pm

Wow.. That sounds so heartless and mean from your husband.. I wish you a Happy Birthday and Happy New Year.

I dont know your previous posts but I am going to say when you get the strength and can get out of this marriage are you going to do it.. Man;; that is such a low blow that I cant even imagine a husband acting like this. Wait a minute.. That is def. not a husband in my book or in any book. You need to start disengaging from this man as much as you can.

I dont say that lightly but how can you be with someone who treats you like this and makes you feel less than. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect as a mother of his children and like a wife s hould be treated..

I am sorry but this man does not deserve the title of husband and he also cheated on you.

Have you both gone to counseling for the cheating and the other things?? Are you in invdividual counseling as this can make you unstuck and find out why you keep accepting his behavior..

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 8:18pm

Your DH has cheated on you & told you he wasn't in love w/ you--why would you settle for a DH who treats you like this?

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Registered: 12-25-2011
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 8:31pm
Sodulone, can u give us some back ground? How long married? How old are you? How old are kids? Why did he cheat? How was/is your sex life? Anything else you could add would be great!
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Registered: 12-25-2011
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 8:32pm
Sorry, ment to say sofullone.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 12:27am

I was married to a man who never gave presents, Christmas, Birthday, Mother's Day......NOTHING.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 8:00am

I just wanted to give you some ((HUGS)) and support, sofull.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 10:07am

How about give him the divorce treatment? Then his gift to you will be child support. He doesn't even love you anymore... A marriage is a relationship that is separate from children. It's a love between two people, and if you don't have that, you don't really have a marriage.

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Registered: 08-25-2009
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 6:18pm

Weve been married 7 yrs our twins just turned 1 years old. We grew up together and decided to move 4 hours away from our family. The sex was okay and frequent for me but we would go sometimes two weeks with no sex. He told me he doesnt know why he cheated but he will not give me all the details. this is not the first time he cheated either. I found condoms in thehouse and confronted him and thats how I found out about this time. I am a stay at home mom my income is limited to him so I really dont have much choice in terms of getting my own place right now. IHe actually asked me tonight if I wanted to do anything for my birthday, I said no but than you for asking.

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Registered: 08-25-2009
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 6:19pm

The present was from me but I felt so stupid when I realized that he didnt buy me anything that I lied and said it was from the kids.

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Registered: 08-25-2009
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 6:29pm

I think its more of the embarrassment of having tomove back home esp with twins and I would be moving back to Nj which would cost me more in livivng expenses than where I am right now. I know I probably need to take steps to end it but I am feeling really weak right now especially doing everything on my own.

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