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|Sun, 10-06-2013 - 1:37pm|
Hi everyone, first post here!
My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. We've been together a year and have been living together for about four months, and we've settled in to the co-habitating life.
My question is about compliments. He rarely gives them, and when he does, they're never about my looks. The compliments he does give me from time to time is how well I cleaned up a messy room, or he'll thank me for folding his laundry (more like point out that I did it and smile). If I'm trying to put together a new outfit, I can ask his opinion and he'll say "it looks nice," but he won't say I look nice - ever. He issues compliments based on the things I do, not what I look like. If he does compliment me on my looks, it's what I'm wearing, not my physical self.
(I apologize in advance if the following is too much information!!)
He does a great job making me feel sexy. We're very open in communication, so he doesn't hold back in telling me he loves a certain pair of underwear or something we do in bed. I feel very secure with our sex life, and that may be why I enjoy it so much... that's when I feel like I'm attractive to him.
Anyway... I don't know what to do. I don't want to seem needy by asking him to pay me more compliments, but I'm starting to feel very insecure, and he knows it. He's in contact both professionally and personally with a few of his exes (one of which he recently lied about being an ex so I would feel comfortable with him hanging out with her) and they are all much more attractive than myself. I told him I felt like a downgrade from all the girls he's dated, and he didn't make any effort to make me feel better about it. He simply said "that's because you're insecure. You're not a downgrade," and that was that. I feel sexy, but I don't feel beautiful. What do I do?