no date night

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Registered: 11-09-2007
no date night
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Fri, 11-09-2007 - 6:46am

I love, love, love my husband...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 12:19pm

Clearly, your husband must be made to understand that a relationship requires time, attention and good bonding between the husband and wife. Even though he may miss the girls, he needs to realize that unless he tends to you and to the relationship, the entire family will not do so well. The bond between husband and wife is the cornerstone of all happy families.


Perhaps there are issues between the two of you that haven't been brought to light, worked through or discussed. Take time to find out if there are reasons why you both have been pulling away (aside from your intense work schedules). Take time to find out what you both need to feel wanted, loved and nurtured again.


You also need to nurture yourself, to feel better about your body again and about who you are. Balance is the heartbeat of healthy living. Be mindful of that.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 12:22pm

Welcome to the board mom_angelbaby2007,


Would it be possible for you or your husband to get your shifts changed or for one of you to change jobs so you can work the same shift and get more time of together?


Since it is important to you to spend some time with your husband, try explaining to him that you miss spending time with just him and see if he would be open to at least once a month or something.


You could also try finding some date activities were you could bring the children. Like bowling or walk to a park and let your older together play and the two you can talk.

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Registered: 11-09-2007
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 9:04am

"Ask and you shall receive " I guess is how the saying goes....

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 11-10-2007 - 3:43pm
Good grief, don't take any advice from THOSE friends--they are obviously clueless. Sounds like you and your husband really want the same things in your relationship. Best wishes to you as you navigate this stress in your marriage.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 4:09pm
Glad to hear that things are looking brighter. Please feel free to hang out on the board and post anytime.

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