no job, new baby - marriage failing
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no job, new baby - marriage failing
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 1:10pm |
after having a baby I decided not to go back to work because it was 1.5 hour commute both ways (3hrs a day) and my husband and I thougth I could find something else easily. Well I now have a 10 month old and no job. I have depression and so this failure to find employment and frustration of being a stay at home mother only adds to my feelings of self worth (or lack of it). My husband thinks that the best thing to do is stay on the sidelines until I can "get it together". I feel really hurt and he doesn't understand why since he "puts a roof over my head, food in my mouth, and clothes on my back". He says that if I want him to act more like a husband than a father then I have to tell him how. He didn't even realize there was problem with the relationship - why wouldn't he notice? we haven't had sex in months and I don't like to even touch him because I feel so angry at him. I think we should see a marriage counselor, but I'm not sure how to find one or what happens in a session or what it costs. Thanks for letting me vent. I think I'll go lay on the bed and cry - the baby is taking his nap so I have an hour to myself- yippie.
Nic
Nic

Reading material to consider:
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy – David D. Burns, MD
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse
Self Matters, Phil McGraw
The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz
My best to you.
Carrie