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No love but can't leave
| Fri, 04-06-2007 - 12:18pm |
For over a year now I have been agonizing internally about my lack of love and passion for my husband. We have been married for four years but together for seven. I don't love him anymore--love in the sense of passion. He's a great man and has loved me without end all this time but more and more I want to get away from him so badly. He doesn't excite me, challenge me or insprire me. We have very different personalities and have "butted" heads many times over the years. So why stay, right? Well, he loves me for who I am--without judgement. He knows every dark detail (and there are plenty) about me and loves me anyway. But for some reason I feel nothing in return. I have begged for him to let me move out of our home but he feels very strongly that we can repair the marriage. I have asked family and friends to help me financially so I can move out and not leave him in a financial bind but no one can help me. I feel very trapped which I am sure makes the situation worse than it is. I feel very weak and out of control (which is completely out of character). I have no idea what to do!! Why can't I just be thankful for this wonderful person in my life? Why does being out on the social scene with men I don't know (and could care less about me) seem so much more desirable than the stability I have at home?

Welcome to the board gidget654,
"Why does being out on the social scene with men I don't know (and could care less about me) seem so much more desirable than the stability I have at home? " Maybe you are looking for excitement that you fee is missing for your marriage? Do you think that could be it. This question could probably be answered in individual counseling.
Do you have any desire at all to stay in your marriage?
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Welcome to the board gidget654,
What makes you happy, or what makes you *feel* happy?
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