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| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 5:02am |
Hi,
I have split with my fiance of 4 years.It's been 2 years now.it was his fault all along and I could'nt take it anymore
I do still Love him and will probably do all my life.
I met another guy in another town a year ago,Things were going well for us until a few months ago.
I miss my ex a lot and the passion between me and this new guy has faded.He loves me and is a great guy to be with,
But from my end I just can't seem to love him the way I did.
My life is on hold right now, and not a day goes by when I don't think of my ex. I have to settle down soon but I just can't bring back that passion and neither can I go back to my ex. I've also lost interest in everything.Please advice me
I have split with my fiance of 4 years.It's been 2 years now.it was his fault all along and I could'nt take it anymore
I do still Love him and will probably do all my life.
I met another guy in another town a year ago,Things were going well for us until a few months ago.
I miss my ex a lot and the passion between me and this new guy has faded.He loves me and is a great guy to be with,
But from my end I just can't seem to love him the way I did.
My life is on hold right now, and not a day goes by when I don't think of my ex. I have to settle down soon but I just can't bring back that passion and neither can I go back to my ex. I've also lost interest in everything.Please advice me
taurean_babe

You aren't gonna like this advice...but you asked...!!!
Pianoguy thinks your priorities are a little warped.
You were with a man for 4 years and then abandoned him for someone else. Now...you want your fiancee back! So what's to prevent you from taking off a 2nd or 3rd time?
You impress as a woman who is looking for "the best possible offer"---and have no real desire to commit herself to ANYBODY! So why don't you just have a "harem of male friends" instead of committing yourself to one man? While 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'---I don't think you've got the mindset for anything serious! SORRY!
Pianoguy
She is in a relationship and not happy for whatever reason, so she's idealizing a relationship that she must have left for a pretty good reason.
To the OP: try and remember why you left your fiance and ask yourself honestly what would be different this time?
As for your current relationship - passion does fade as reality sets in around the 6-9 month mark - and then comes the work, which any relationship entails. Whether you want to work on this relationship is only something you can decide - but don't have unrealistic expectations about what ANY relationship is going to bring you.
Coolas
Pianoguy concedes you have a point....but there was nothing in this woman's post that indicated the relationship with her fiancee was an "unhappy one!" Besides...why would she stay 4 years with a man she was planning to marry?
The impression I received (from her words) was that the woman found a man who was 'more attractive' (and perhaps more attentive) and gravitated in his direction.
Pianoguy (who realizes that passion CAN FADE...but the 'time frame' varies on the couple)
Also, there was two people in your previous relationship, yet you say:
it was his fault all along and I could'nt take it anymore
While in a relationship, whatever you do or don't do contributes to it either positively or negatively. You contributed on some level to the demise of the relationship.
::Things were going well for us until a few months ago.
The inital stages of a relationship are infatuation and that does fade.
::I miss my ex a lot and the passion between me and this new guy has faded.
Miss your ex... my guess is that you never grieved for the end of that relationship and that you still have grieving to do, for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been. If you heal, you will no longer measure all other relationship by this ex.
My best to you.
Carrie