Non dramatic brink of divorce

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Non dramatic brink of divorce
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:28pm

I have been reading about divorce and my relationship does not fit the model. My husband hasn't cheated on me. He's not abusive. He's not

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Registered: 11-20-2004
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:36pm

I am sending you big hugs........... I am in a similar situation in that we dont' have many big problems, but yet, we are in an impass of sorts.


I think it sounds like at the very least, *you* can use some counseling to try to sort some thoughts in your head. You sound like you may be a bit confused as to why you married your husband, why you have stayed until now, and why you should stay in the future.


You know........ the grass is not greener.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:42pm

You have a six month old and are adjusting to being home.

It is not enough to have a good mind.  The main thing is to use it well.-- Rene Descartes

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:55pm

I know. These are all of the things I have considered. I have only been at home 9 months, so going back to work (I have a BA) wouldn't be a giant adjustment. It is definitely a downside.


This isn't our first child, so it's not like I'm dealing with "new mom" issues. (And this baby is MUCH easier than our first, so far.) It could possibly be PPD, but these feelings are nothing new. They've been going on since the beginning of our marriage. I am just now getting to the point where I am sick of being so unhappy.


I definitely know that things are not always greener. That's why I feel like I have no idea what to do.


As far as the baby, she's 6 months, which means I got pregnant more than a year ago. A lot changes in a year. Why doesn't that make sense? There are tons of couples that divorce before the baby is even born. I have been trying so hard to figure out how

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 12:57am

Welcome to the board sonjahenie,


I second the counseling for yourself option.... to help you sort through your feelings and help you decide what you want to do.