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is this normal?
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:05pm |
I have been married for almost five years, and I love my husband very much. I have never had the slightest inclination to leave hime or even cheat on him. Things have been a little frustrating for the two of us for a little while now, but I care about him so much! I have been having these feelings lately that are really starting to make me wonder, though.
Last Sunday, I watched a movie that I never thought that I would like. As it turns out, I thought it was hysterical, but one of the actors really stood out in my mind. It is definitely not the character he played that I was attracted to, because the character was a jerk. He is not very famous, and he is not your typical heartthrob celebrity, but I am still thinking and fantasizing about him. I guess some fantasy is normal, but I have never had any before, and I think maybe I am taking it too far. I have spent a lot of time in the past few days trying to figure out how to locate and meet him. It's not some wierd obsession like he needs to be afraid of me or anything. I just have this gut feeling that he and I are supposed to meet (kind of like on Sleepless in Seattle). I found a phone number today that I thought might be his, so I called it, then hung up when someone answered. I have been hiding all this from my husband, and I feel like I am cheating on him. I have never done anything like this in my entire life! I just feel like a have to find this man. I keep playing out what I think might happen in my mind, and in the end, I leave my husband for him.
I am a fairly straight-laced person, and I've never had such strong feelings! I just don't know if this is normal, or if I am way too obsessed, or if I need to go with my instinct and try to meet him so that my feelings will settle down. And what do I tell my husband? I know this sounds like childish celebrity obsession, but my feelings are very real! Please help me!
Edited 7/30/2004 8:12 pm ET ET by v_allison
Last Sunday, I watched a movie that I never thought that I would like. As it turns out, I thought it was hysterical, but one of the actors really stood out in my mind. It is definitely not the character he played that I was attracted to, because the character was a jerk. He is not very famous, and he is not your typical heartthrob celebrity, but I am still thinking and fantasizing about him. I guess some fantasy is normal, but I have never had any before, and I think maybe I am taking it too far. I have spent a lot of time in the past few days trying to figure out how to locate and meet him. It's not some wierd obsession like he needs to be afraid of me or anything. I just have this gut feeling that he and I are supposed to meet (kind of like on Sleepless in Seattle). I found a phone number today that I thought might be his, so I called it, then hung up when someone answered. I have been hiding all this from my husband, and I feel like I am cheating on him. I have never done anything like this in my entire life! I just feel like a have to find this man. I keep playing out what I think might happen in my mind, and in the end, I leave my husband for him.
I am a fairly straight-laced person, and I've never had such strong feelings! I just don't know if this is normal, or if I am way too obsessed, or if I need to go with my instinct and try to meet him so that my feelings will settle down. And what do I tell my husband? I know this sounds like childish celebrity obsession, but my feelings are very real! Please help me!
Edited 7/30/2004 8:12 pm ET ET by v_allison

You have no idea what this person is like in real life. All you know is what you fantasise him to be like because of how he portrayed one character in a movie that moved you in some way - even though you didn't really like the character himself.
Honestly, the way you're heading now, you're likely to get a restraining order from the guy if you do manage to track him down in person, and end up on ET or something.
"...I keep playing out what I think might happen in my mind, and in the end, I leave my husband for him..." THAT is just pretty darn scary to me.
Sounds like you are in a rut in your life and you're seeking some sort of excitement. This is not the way to go about it.
If you really do have that feeling that you're supposed to meet him (and believe me, I know that feeling, because I've had it twice in my life), then you will meet him when and if it's supposed to happen.
Seriously, what you've described is definitely far removed from normal. "Normal" would be gossiping about how hot and intriguing this guy is to your girlfriends, not trying for days to track him down in person.
Wow, I don't know what else to say.
Eve
Please get help!