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not enough attention
| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 2:54pm |
My husband is a very loving man,except when it comes to me on a personal level. Since I have had my children and my breast reduction he seems that he doesn't think I am pretty any more. He doesn't give any compliments or doesn't even try to grab or touch me. I am working on losing weight and doing well at. I have other friends who are male and they tell me how well I look. But the one I want to hear it from isn't saying anything. I dont'know what to do. I just want him to notice me again.

Maybe it is intimidating to him that you are doing all of this for yourself, and maybe he is scared that once you reach your desired goal, you are going top look at him and say, look at me now! and look at you, I deserve better.
Men sometimes get insecure when they notice that what was once "comfortable" is now changing and maybe he just really loved your large breasts, and loved you the way you were, and is now wondering if you will change after you complete your goals.
You have to reassure him that you love him, and that no matter what PHYSICAL changes you go through that you only have eyes, and a heart for him. Make sure you spend time with him even with your workout routines.
Try asking him to wash your back after a workout, and complimenting him on his strong hands and how much you love it when he touches you. Make him feel that you glow when his hands carress you. Use this new you to seduce him, trust me he'll fall at your very willing feet!
Be Blessed and good luck on your weight goals!
You are not a victim or responsible for anyone else's problems.
Maybe it is time for counseling.