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| Wed, 06-20-2007 - 6:27pm |
Me and my boyfriend took a break after two years, and during that time we were in our second year of college when I dated and had sex with other men. Our break lasted for a year, and now we are back together and very happy. I have guilt because he doesn't know about what I did. He was also unfaithful at the begining of our break, but the only reason I found out was because someone told me in hopes for us to fall apart.I already forgave him even before I found out for sure; I had womens intuition I knew he cheated, I told him I loved him unconditionally. It was only then that he confessed after denying it for so long. I feel that we were young and just ejoying life made some mistakes, now we are back together and want to be serious and have a real mature relationship. Is was I did considered cheating? Should I tell him? Or can I let go of this guilt and move on to our new relationship without having to bring up the past?
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| Wed, 06-20-2007 - 6:55pm |
If you were broken up for a year, he couldn't have expected you NOT to date other people. If it were a couple weeks or days it would be a little different, but a year is a long break. If you guys were broken up (and were both aware of it) then it can't be considered cheating on either side. If it will make you feel better, then tell him, but if he's going to get upset over it, don't feel obligated to.
| Wed, 06-20-2007 - 7:35pm |
He was not unfaithful and he didn't cheat - you were broken up. So you were not unfaithful and you didn't cheat. You don't owe fidelity to someone you are no longer in a relationship with. If you did not make an issue of his behavior then I wouldn't bother with "confessing" on the other hand, if you made him feel guilty, hounded him or otherwise expected him to apologize and atone for his "sins" then you were out of integrity since you did the same thing and were not honest with him. If that's the case you need to come clean.
