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Not going so well with us...
| Wed, 12-31-2003 - 2:41pm |
Here is my story...
Me and my hubby talk or text everyday, he is in England I am in Delaware.
Yesterday, he didn't texy or call, and I kept calling and texting but to no avail.
Finally after I call his work and tell someone to call him, I get a hold of him, and that was this morning!
He tells me he left his phone in his car and didn't go get it.
He thinks it is no big deal that I am flipping out abuot this.
Not only is he disrespecting me by doing that, he did it again today and went to Hooters!
I didn't tell him not to go, I just said fine go hang out with girls that cater to you, just don't be mad when I hang out with a bunch of guys!
Then we kept arguing back in forth by text messaging and he still thinks nothing is his fault.
I am so pissed I could divorce him right now. He doesn't seem to care so why should I?
We've only been married for a couple months so an anull would be easy to do.
I am so mad at him, he has done this before, always thinking it's not his fault and disrespecting me.
What do you guys think I should do? One more thing, I am only 20 and he is only 22...
It'll be a new year and already it's not going well and I don't want to waste my time. He is suppossed to come visit the weekend after this...
Me and my hubby talk or text everyday, he is in England I am in Delaware.
Yesterday, he didn't texy or call, and I kept calling and texting but to no avail.
Finally after I call his work and tell someone to call him, I get a hold of him, and that was this morning!
He tells me he left his phone in his car and didn't go get it.
He thinks it is no big deal that I am flipping out abuot this.
Not only is he disrespecting me by doing that, he did it again today and went to Hooters!
I didn't tell him not to go, I just said fine go hang out with girls that cater to you, just don't be mad when I hang out with a bunch of guys!
Then we kept arguing back in forth by text messaging and he still thinks nothing is his fault.
I am so pissed I could divorce him right now. He doesn't seem to care so why should I?
We've only been married for a couple months so an anull would be easy to do.
I am so mad at him, he has done this before, always thinking it's not his fault and disrespecting me.
What do you guys think I should do? One more thing, I am only 20 and he is only 22...
It'll be a new year and already it's not going well and I don't want to waste my time. He is suppossed to come visit the weekend after this...

Honestly, if not calling you for one night is a reason to get a divorce or an anullment for you, then I think that that is the best thing for you to do.
James
janderson_ny@yahoo.com
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I guess he will never change, but I'll just continue to put up with it...
Like the other day I told him to call after my grandma's funeral and he didn't, cuz he was too lazy to get off his ass and go to the pay phone...
Oh well...
And to answer why we are married and not living together, because we are both Air Force and I had orders to DE before we married, and he has to finish his tour in England...
From the date of your first note, I understood that it was New Year's Eve and that's why it was so important that he called you. I would feel the same way.
However, I think you guys are off to a rocky start because of a huge lack of communication. I hope that he gets to come home and stay home soon. Before that time,I would read some books on relationships and would definitely seek counseling so that you can start out living as husband and wife with the right tools to make it work.
What alarms me is how quickly you are talking "divorce" or "annulment". Marriage is supposed to be FOREVER and we can't expect two people to have exactly the same thoughts on everything...that's where communication and compromise come in. But you've got to WANT to make it work.
Good luck, and I hope things turn around for you as a couple.