Not sure how to handle this...
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| Thu, 06-21-2007 - 11:08am |
About 2 months ago I started dating someone. I had just come off a relationship where I was hurt pretty bad. I decided to open myself up to the possiblity of dating again and met someone at one of my events. He asked me for my number at we went out that weekend. We unfortunately slept together on the first date and I thought this was the end. Alas, it was not. We ended up going out again that week. After our second date we stayed in touch basically through e-mail and the occasional phone call. I tried to let him take the lead but found it hard to relinquish my desire to contact him (usually via e-mail). We went out about 3 more times after. Mind you, all of these dates were during the week. He has not asked me out on a weekend except for the first time. So, he recently went away for about 2 weeks and I believe got back from his trip on Monday. He didn't contact me on his trip and I didn't think he would because he was out of the country and had limited use of his cellphone.
Fast forward to 3 days later... I have yet to hear from him. Before he left he e-mailed me, "have a great 10 days and we'll catch up when I get back!" this is where my paranoia steps in...
I am not sure if I should contact him (probably not) or just forget about it. I mean wouldn't you want to see the person you were sort of dating if you were away from them for awhile. My Mom was telling me if I didn't hear from him by today to just forget about it. It's pretty hard for me to do that. I have been pretty down about it because it is bringing to the surface the apparent unresolved issues I had with my past relationship and the feeling of rejection. So what do you think?

Hi luna,
Don't contact him, if he wants to contact you he will. Maybe he is busy from being out of the country for 2 weeks. You have had a few dates and had sex, unfortunately that does not mean he is required to get in touch with you, unless you had the "talk" before he left, which it doesn't sound like you did from your statement sort of dating.
Go on with your life the way it was before him. Let him come to you, the ball is in his court.
I know rejection is a tough one especially if you have had to experience it a couple of times, but you always have to remember that you are better than these guys who are too lazy to keep in touch and let you fall by the wayside. Good riddance to them so that you can leave room in your life for someone who WILL make the time and effort. Good luck and take care.