not sure what to do about this

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Registered: 06-07-2003
not sure what to do about this
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Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:19am
My birthday was about six weeks ago and I think my boyfriend forgot it. He remembered it last year and I thought he would just do the same this year like I did with his birthday. On my birthday he called to wish me a happy birthday and said we'd go out to dinner for it but he never followed through. I know around the time of my birthday he was extremely busy and stressed out over work and his classes and sleeping for like three hours a day so I let it slide. He's always been there for me and he treats me well and I'm very very happy with him and I want the relationship to work out but I don't know If I should say, he forgot, oh well, but aside from that he's a wonderful boyfriend or get angry with him.

I really love him and want to be with him and it's not like he cheated on me or abused me or something. I know that birthdays aren't a huge deal to him overall- he's not one for birthday parties and planning for himself or others. He was happy when I gave him a present some time ago but he didn't push for much else. It does hurt my feelings a little but since then he's taken me to dinner, the movies, got me a terrific christmas present, invited me to dinner with his family, etc. He's done evertything a good bf should do except fully acknowledge my birthday.
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Registered: 09-05-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:32am

Well, I think you should let him know that this is causing you so much concern, he probably did just forget with all the hours he is working.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 2:49am
Or play it off like a joke - hey, I know you were stressed two weeks ago, so get out your calendar and tell me which night we are going to have my belated b-day celebration.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 1:44pm

first ---- get out of the habit of holding on to anger/frustration/hurt for so long. better still, get out of the habit altogether lol. 6 weeks is too long to be holding on to this anger.


second - he didn't "forget your birthday" - you say that he called you to wish you a happy birthday. what happened is that he didn't celebrate it the way you had wished/wanted/expected. but --- he is not YOU, he is different . you say that he is not one for making a big deal about birthdays.


third - sounds like you have a real prince there. accept him "as is" - he is not one for making a big deal about birthdays and "special dates", or move on and find someone who will make a big deal about birthdays. next year, YOU plan YOUR birthday. (and when you