I am really concerned that you are not working.
Your relationship is good "except" for his drinking?????
I have to notice the irony in the statement "our relationship was good except for his excessive drinking."
I'm 49 and my gf, that I just broke up with, is 22. Assuming we were compatible, boy would you be happy with me. Except, I don't think I could be needy enough to satisfy you.
Anyway, he is an alcoholic. They come in many varieties but generally don't attempt to kick the addiction until their life falls apart to the point that they have no choice. As of now, you are the one preventing it from falling apart, hence, you are partially responsible for him getting drunk. It's called co-dependency and you get something out of it (albeit it an unhealthy need) just as you do caretaking
alsims, you're going about this all backwards.