Not sure what to do....(long)

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Not sure what to do....(long)
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 9:24am
I'm desperate for advice/opinions. The situation is kind of outta my hands...but I'm totally confused.

I'd been dating a guy for a month and a half. (I'm 30, he's 22) We met playing pool, hit it off and one thing led to another. Things have been great.

He was seeing someone else when we first met, and nothing really happened between him and I until he had broken it off with her. But, the relationships did basically "overlap". Well, she'd been continually calling him...he'd tell me when she'd call.

Well, Saturday he and I went to the movies, she called and told him that they needed to talk. He said he had to talk to her, to finish it once and for all.

I told him that he needed to do, what he needed to do...but that I didn't think we should see each other until the "ex situation" was taken care of.

There's a bunch more to the story...but I'm trying to keep it short. I didn't end up seeing him later Saturday night, as planned. BUT, I know for a fact that he wasn't with her. I've NEVER once NOT trusted him.

He came over Sunday. He said that he needed some time, and wanted to put us "on hold". He said that he had already made up his mind that he wants to be with me, and not with her. he wasn't putting us on hold to see her, or see if things would work. He said that we'd end together, that he wants us to work and doesn't want things between us ruined.

From what he said, I take it to mean that he needs time to resolve his feelings of guilt over hurting her and needs to have "closure" with their relationship.

It's only been two days, but it feels like two months. All of the people that I've talked to, that know him, say that he'll end up "picking" me.

I'm just not sure....is the time we had together enough to make all this crap worth it for him?? I haven't been worrying about him going back to her, I feel like he'll either choose to be with me, or no one.

He had some stuff at my house, so he picked it up when he came over Sunday....I also gave him back the ruby/diamond ring that he gave me for Christmas. I started crying when I did that, and he did too. He wanted me to keep it, but I told him that it didn't mean anything if he and I weren't together....and when/if he made his decision, he could give it back then. he said that i'd get it back soon.

I'm sorry this is so long, I'm just so confused....and basically needed to vent.

Thanks for "listening".