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Not sure what I'm doing!
| Mon, 02-09-2004 - 6:00pm |
Ok I'm kinda still new here. I am 22 married mom. I go to school f/t and work p/t. My husband and I got married while I was pregnant. I feel I practically talked him into it and then we just agreed. He never actually proposed.Then we went to the hitchen post. Well I feel like I really rushed my life and didn't even get to know my husband. I now know that we have nothing in common and are very different kinds of people. He is very quiet and reserved and I am outgoing and fun. He is 27, but he acts like he's 50. He works hard all day so he never want to go out and do things. When I do he calls me a little girl. To make this short, after 4 years of our relationship I finally had an affair. This guy is so nice and affectionate to me. He did sexual things to me before that my husband has only talked about. He is also married and I know that it is not right. At first we tried to find ways to get out of the house it seemed on a daily basis. Now it's not the same. I still think about him all the time though. I think to myself that I want to win his heart and make him fall in love with me.

As for the other guy, you can't make him fall in love with you and want to be with you. Please, don't use your body to try it either.
Consider counseling to help you figure out what you really want and where you want to go from here.
Carrie
There is never an excuse to have an affair, what you are doing is disrespectful to you, your child and your husband.
James
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I think you both need to desperatley get into counseling to resolve some of these issues.I dont beleive that you dont love each other, but never had the time a "normalk" couple has to bond and unfortunatley, contrary to peoples beleifs, a child doesnt make that automatically happen.If you are invested in this relationship and really want to try and make it work, I would try counseling and making weekly "dates" and go from there.
If you beleive that this relationship is doomed and are bound and determined to get out, then do so and do it now.Staying somewhere you dont want to be will only breed regret and hate.