Not sure what's the right thing to do
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|Thu, 03-22-2012 - 9:16pm|
My boyfriend and I have been through alot over the years. Still I am ready to settle down and get married. As fate would have it he is no position to marry. He lost his job in September and has not been able to find work. He lives in another state 2.5 hours away from me and we've been doing the long distance thing for a year. I was thinking that we would be moving in together when the leases are up on our apartments this Fall. I thought that he would move back to NY since I am already established here and I have a very good job. But he seems determined to get back on his feet where he's at. He's struggling reallly bad out there and I don't fully get it. I am willing for him to come back and look for a job here, but he doesn't seem to want to do that. I think that a part of that has to do with his parents. They want him to stay away from me and focus on his life. I agree that he has not focused on his life as much as he should, but I don't feel that I am distracting him. He keeps telling me that he loves me and plans to marry me, but I don't know what to do right now. I feel that he is putting us on the back burner, but maybe that is the right thing for him to do. However, I don't want to be on the back burner and I feel like I am probably wasting more time. I should point out that I am older than him and we've been together for 4.5 years.