Not sure whether to go back!!!

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Registered: 05-19-2004
Not sure whether to go back!!!
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Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:00pm
I am 26 and have been married almost 7 years. We have had constant problems and I unfortunately have had a cheating problem that up until now I have not been able to understand. I have been getting counseling for the past 6-7 months. Also my husband and I have been separated for almost 2 years. I ended up getting pregnant with the man I was cheating with and have been in a relationship with him for the past 2 years. Things have gotten kind of hard to handle with him and we have been screaming and fighting for a while now. Anyway he left and I am currently 6 months pregnant with his baby which is making this situtation harder than ever. To make a long story short, I have a chance to do marriage counseling but under the guidelines that I NEVER talk to the bf again. I think that is an impossible thing to ask because we have almost 2 children together. (I will NOT take his children from him!!) Well I am not sure what to do. Do I try to save my marriage or move on and if I move on, how do I do that knowing that I have been the major problem in this relationship? I feel like I have a responsibility to at least try to fix it for my childrens sake and so if it doesn't work then I can have some of my sanity back. PLEASE HELP!!!!!! Thankyou, Jamie
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 2:16pm
Since you are in counseling, please explain the condition of marriage counseling to YOUR counselor and get his/her input.

While I can't blame your husband for his demands, they are unrealistic since children are involved.


Carrie