nothing to talk about anymore!

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Registered: 05-28-2003
nothing to talk about anymore!
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 7:30pm
My boyfriend and I have been together about 6 months now...I haven't really been able to open up to him and tell him about my past. We broke up about a week ago because of this and we just got back together to see if I could open up more. I'm trying, but it just seems like we have nothing to talk about anymore. I don't know what to say to him. No conversation topics come to my head, and I think he's feeling the same way. What can I do?
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Registered: 05-23-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 5:29am
You've got two things going on here...

First you said that you haven't told him about your past and you're trying to open up to him. Then you said there's suddenly nothing to talk about.

Do you really want to talk about your past or he is very inquisitive about it? If you do, then that's something to talk about. However, I get the feeling you don't want to, and that fact is weighing heavily on your mind, so that you can't think of anything else and that's why you have nothing to say.

The past is something we can't change and with the right person, talking about it is often cathartic and helps relieve us of the burden. For some reason, I have a feeling that you don't feel comfortable enough to talk about it with him. Do you feel that he would be judgmental? Do you think he would feel differently about you if he knew? These are questions you need to ask yourself. Otherwise, I think the past is going to stand in the way of your future, and I think that if you have any serious feeling about him, the truth should come out. Good luck sorting this out.