now married wants me to dress more cover

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Registered: 12-20-2007
now married wants me to dress more cover
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 11:09am
To make a long story short, before I met my husband, I wore sexy youthful
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 11:50am

Welcome to the board redandsexy,


I don't think your husband should be telling you what to wear and what not to wear. Is he controlling of you in any other ways? If not, than don't let this get between the two of you. Dress like you want one time and then dress more like he wants the next.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:48pm
Is he controlling and jealous in general?
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 4:47pm

Well, it does sound as though he is overly controlling here and insecure. You've got to find a happy medium. No, you don't have to wear long skirts and baggy shirts to help him deal with his unreasonable jealousy. That's going too far. You don't want to lose your sense of yourself as a beautiful, desirable woman. You don't want to feel like a frumpy woman, just to make him less nervous. On the other hand, you do want to make sure you choose clothing that makes you feel good about yourself, but is not overly suggestive. There is no reason in the world why a husband, though, should have a say over what you wear. He's not your parent and you're not a young child. That's regressive and not good for you.


If he's too upset by this, I strongly suggest that he get some therapy in dealing with his anxiety and need to control to this degree.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 12-20-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 3:17pm

Thank you Drshoshanna. I think you are absolutely right. My husband should not try to tell me what to wear. I will

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Registered: 12-20-2007
Fri, 12-21-2007 - 3:25pm
No, no -- He just spends too much time trying to figure me out. I told him you will never walk in