Offended

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Registered: 07-05-2007
Offended
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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 4:22pm

Hi Everyone,


Hopefully I can get advice on this topic.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: monet2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 4:31pm

I wouldn't assume that since he doesn't talk about the dentist, he doesn't go... Then again my boyfriend doesn't go to the dentist OR talk about it so hmmm. ;(

I don't think the problem is that he's not chewing enough gum, it's his halitosis. Gum only masks the smell for a little while when people have bad halitosis. Do you think he brushes his teeth regularly? He should probably ask his dentist for ways to help his breath. It's possible to bring it up nicely to him without sounding mean, I know how you feel though because I'm very sensitive to someone's breath too. Just say "I really like you, and I might be too sensitive... But have you talked to your dentist about things to improve your breath? I'm really sorry for bringing it up, I don't mean to embarrass you."

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Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: monet2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 6:35pm

there are lots of things that could be going on in his mouth:

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: monet2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 7:29pm

Welcome to the board monet2007,


While you don't want to hurt his feelings, don't pass up an opportunity to tell him when he's asking and wants to know. Nicely, "I don't know how to tell you this, but since you asked, I hope this comes out right...." and tell him.





angels

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Registered: 07-05-2007
In reply to: monet2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 8:51am
Thanks for the advice. I guess there really is no nice or easy way to say it. I wonder if no one has ever told him because he's such a nice guy and if he was a prick someone would have informed him about his breath long ago in a fit of rage.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: monet2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 11:05am

Even though this is a sensitive topic, it's best to address it directly. Tell him you're happy with him, think he's great and feel wonderful with him, - the only problem is that his breath needs attention. Say it kindly and lightly. Don't make a big deal of it. Say it's an obstacle for you and there are many dentists who can help with that problem....if you do it lightly he won't take it too hard. And make sure that you preface it with all the goodness about him first.


Honesty is always best. Otherwise how can the problem he truly handled?


Best,