office affair

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Registered: 06-16-2004
office affair
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:39pm
I have been married for four years and i have been having an affair with a man that I work with for 4 months now. The other day when we met he kissed me and said "love you". He said this twice, I really didn't think about it at first because it took me offguard. But I ask him about it and he said it was a slip up. He already told me that he doesn't want to go through a divorce again (this is his second marriage), and I understood at first but my marriage is getting to the point where I am ready to leave. I am falling hard for this man and I do love him. I am just wondering if he really meant what he said or if he just said it was a slip up because he is scared of feeling that way toward me. I know his marriage isn't great and I would leave my husband for him in a heartbeat. Should I talk to him about this and risk him ending things, or ride it out and see where it goes?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 6:12pm
I think you need to post on the 'My Affair Support' board, you won't get much support here.


Carrie

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 8:13pm

No one is going to sit here and support your decision to single handedly ruin not only yours, but another couples marraige...its wrong and if the tables were turned, how would you feel?Its a cowardley gesture to have affair. It means not only do you not respect your husband, your marriage- or yourself, you cant even tell the man you are married to that you no longer want to be with him....quite sad.