Ok Ladies. I need a little help here

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Ok Ladies. I need a little help here
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Mon, 12-03-2007 - 10:12pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-03-2007 - 10:32pm

Well, it doesn't make me feel sexy when a guy grabs my ass or any other body part, it makes me feel mauled and very, very annoyed.


The way a guy makes me feel

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 2:06am

To be honest, I believe that feeling sexy isn't something that someone else can give you.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 12:11pm
You shouldn't carry the burden of her feelings. I hope that counseling helps with her communicating to you what she needs to feel sexy. What did the counselor say about this?
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Registered: 12-04-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 12:19pm

I know just how she feels-don't grab caress, don't always want sex but hold her in bed but feeling sexy isn't just about sex how do you make her feel the rest of the time?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 1:03pm

Welcome to the board superdiz,


You've already gotten good advice.

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 6:59pm

Everyone - Thanks.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 7:36pm

On the one hand, each person has to work out their own feelings of insecurity and feel good about themselves. On the other hand, when in a relationship, that person can do a lot to help things along. Everyone has something else that makes them feel sexy. Why not ask her what does it for her? Find out, then do it. It's not so hard. It may be that you do not communicate your feelings of being attracted to her in a way that makes her feel it. This does not mean you are not attracted. It means you have to find the right way to express it to her so that she feels turned on as well. The only way to find out how to do this is by open, honest communication between the two of you. Tell her to be honest with you about what makes her feel that way, and you'll try your best to do your part.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 1:43pm

Hi again,


"Previous boyfriends and even rapist have made her feel fat.

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 6:00pm

Dr,



I have asked her. She told me to go to a bar and watch other people.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 6:58pm
Then you have to decide if you can live with her this way and assume she won't change.

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