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| Mon, 09-17-2007 - 9:23pm |
Ok, lets see. Where do i begin. Basically, on going belittling, giving and not getting.
Last night was a biggie. We've been having problems, so we tried to make a date for Saturday so we can spend time alone together. He decides he has to go to work to cover for someone (he's a tattoo artist). He might be home by 5pm. That turned into 1am. Yes I'm a bit ticked off that he pushed me aside for his precious money. Then yesterday, he was supposed to work on my arm (tattoo). And this has NOTHING to do with the tattoo - but made it obvious he didn't want to do it, called me to tell me he got a appt and it'd be later. Finally called way later to say it wouldn't get done. Once again, I'm not important.
Basically it comes down to I'm too needy. I am needy, but not as needy as he is saying I am. When we met (Feb this year) - things were great. I was his world. He adored me. He loved to make love to me and kiss me. Now, his idea of sex is "let me GET YOU real quick from behind" or "wanna get laid". WHen he said that the other day, i said in a joking way "no, but I'll make love". He got all pissed off because I "corrected him" when all I was doing was trying to take something dirty and making it beautiful. Sex really sucks lately. I only orgasm on top. And he'll look at me and ask "you going to cum, you going to cum?" Well, no not if you keep asking. He never goes down. He did when we met. Now his excuse is that he saw his father when he was a kid (he is 37 now) going down on the neighbor's wife. So suddenly, after doing it a few times, this comes up. And I KNOW there is nothing wrong with me down there.

Sounds like your honeymoon period wore off very suddenly, and this guy simply doesn't care for you the same way he used to. It was really nice of you to give him that money for his surgery - probably too nice. I personally wouldn't trust a man who takes monetary advantage of a woman.
I'm not sure how long you've been together or when in your relationship he moved to be with you, but he seems to be blaming you for a lot of things and unfortunately you can't simply make someone care. He sounds like a jerk who would rather make you feel badly for his shortcomings than own up to his faults and try to be a better person.
Welcome to the board watergirl74,
You are clearly not happy in the relationship anymore. Do you think that would change if he went back to the person he was? Do you think he would do that? I would suggest talking to him about all of this, but I am doubting you will get anywhere since he says you are too needy.
The working late when the shop usually isn't open late and sex being different could be signs that he is cheating. Is it possible he is working more to pay you back the 12k? Has he made any attempt to pay you back for it?
Don't stay in a relationship with him because he moved 3000 miles and has no friends. Stay with him because love him and want to be in a relationship with him. Do what is best for you and your children and your happiness.
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